Thoughts have been shared about the sad results upon a family when a husband puts down his wife. We turn now to the great importance for the wife to not put down her husband. Not only are the husbands commanded to love their wives but also the women are commanded to love their husbands. [Titus 2:4.] The Word says that "love worketh no ill ....." [Romans 13:10.]
The commandment to honour your father is so important to be upheld by the wife in like manner with the husband to uphold the important station of mother before all the children.
The word "father" of the 5th commandment of the Decalogue means "chief". [Strong’s Hebrew dictionary.] "Mother" means "bond" (which was discussed in the last TIO). The two Hebrew descriptive words are very vital to a happy and harmonious family. The two components are equally important.
|| The Honour of Father as Chief. ||
A family without the mother bond is a fractured family of lone ranger children with every person out to gain from their quarter. A family without the honour of father as "chief" coming from the wife and mother produces the same void that was produced in Israel when there was "....... no king in Israel, but every man did that which was right in his own eyes." [Judges 17:6.]
There has to be the final authority somewhere. Just as there is final authority in society so such tiered authority is required in the family. "The head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God". [1 Corinthians 11:3.]
Where a wife puts down her husband there is put in motion the wheels of manufactured chaos. Children that observe the put down of their dad who is the man of the home can trigger in them a wide range of unnatural and imbalanced psychological emotions and a confusing mental appraisal of the roles of men and women in marriage and home. A wife should never force her husband into the corner of defeat and cause him to throw in the white towel of surrender. To both sons and daughters such a demeaning sight works behavioral havoc in children. ††Children start to take sides and there is no limit to the devastation ahead because there is no "reverence" of the husband and everyone can do "that which is right in his own eyes". It is open slather and everyone can do what they like. Nobody has to do what they are told because marriage honour is compromised causing the "chief" wellbeing of dad and the comfort "bond" of mum to be broken and in shambles.
The wife may not be able to "submit" to the authority of the husband in some questionable issue because it is not "fit in the Lord" [Colossians 3:18.] but she is not to put down the "reverence" [Ephesians 5:33.] of her husband and allegiance to his position as her head in everything that honours the Lord.††
"Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." [Ephesians 5:33.]
|| Lifting Up. ||
From one of the favourite passages on marriage comes the beautiful instruction to "lift up" each other. "For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." [Ecclesiastes 4:10.]
Forgiveness is implied because both in the marriage team can "fall" but what a beautiful thing to lift up each other in the Lord's love and care. "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." [Ephesians 4:32.]
There should be a preciousness in marriage that is thrilling to experience if the Lord helps us to have a soft heart. There is no human relationship greater than marriage for the potential of thrilling and precious interaction if we have a soft and enlarged heart to make such discoveries. Have you ventured to discover what sharing love can do? Do you understand what treasure you can find in another human being that you have a right to get close to more than any other person on earth? Abandon all "what about me" and sow a little tenderness and look for the harvest of growing companionship and corresponding beauty.
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TIO Nutshell Thought.
Job was told "There is lifting up". Lift up each other and reap the blessing that Job did.
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A very precious encouragement from Paul Washer.
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Marriage incompatibilities are the express purpose and blessing of God.
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